Is there anybody out there? (Just nod if you can hear me… )?
Question by Gonetoday: Is there anybody out there? (Just nod if you can hear me… )?
Life struggle w/ depr / hlth probs, loner. Last cpl yrs esp hard: Lost best car I ever had or will have in freak “flood” – guard at work didn’t call til water 1/2 up windows. Freak downpour, city owned, not covered. Lost all baby gifts for my daughters FB in trunk. No flood ins. “Share” son’s car = 21, disrespect. Then, daughter tested, warned of poss Down’s synd. WORRY. (No DS, Thank God!! ) “Arrested” for tail light: torn rot’r cuff, biceps tendon. Case dragged year+. DR won’t testify against city. My 2 atty’s = main one, a$$. Settlement less than 5g incl med. (Younger atty (my fav) “dies” of “anuerism” two weeks later!) Cared for 94 yo F-I-L all non-work hours for 6 mos, then lost best job I ever had – bank mtg scandal. Lost hlth ins. Hubby’s ins = HSA w/ 5,000 deduct. Lost best friend of 20+ yrs. Health, probs worsening, mental health teetering. Caring for 18 mo. granddaughter (light of my life), 10+ hrs/day. Hubby prefer I wk, I prefer GD. House paid off < 6 mo. I'm searching
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Answer by Greywolf
Wow you must be very good at texting becaue I didn’t catch a lot of what you said….but…..
:::::nodding for support::::::
The difference between failure and success is when you stop. If you stop after a failure, that’s the end. If you keep going, you can’t say you failed. And really, truly…..
You can’t stop. One baby step at a time, one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time…
You have supporters here. As for your daughter and Down’s Syndrome, search google adn your local mental health facility for support groups who will offer you emotional support and be familiar with financial assistance to help your daughter while educating you on how to advocate for your daughter’s needs as she grows and develops.
stay with us…..and get yourself some local support. We can never have too many safety nets and friends.
Give your answer to this question below!
Undrstand compltly.
(not a-lone)
kp lking ^up^
everything always seems to hit you when your down, although I’m having a tough life right now, id say my luck is not as bad as yours, and I would also have to say that yours is not as bad as it could be. You could be living in Myanmar and your whole family could be dead and you could be starving, homeless and full of disease. You’ve got that 18 month old grand daughter that definately must make things better. You can take the bad luck as a sign of a test from above, and or as a sign that things will get better as long as you keep going.
sometimes, you just gotta step back, hit the reset button, and start over
…i have become comfortably numb
omg, you must not be on a computer. but i’m just a loner that’s about the only comparison we have, other than that, i don’t know anyone else out there that’s stuggling like you, i know there’s some but “I” don’t know any.
God Bless.
Hello. Yeah, when it rains it pours. I tell ya. Things are really hard right now. It could be worse though. At least you’ve had (or have) a significant other, a child, and a real job for a decent amount of time. I’ve never even really had those things. I’d like to help with your situation but I am just at a loss for words on how to get things on track because I have no clue myself. Cool Pink Floyd reference by the way.
Nod, nod, wink wink, nudge nudge…
We’re out here, darlin’ , doin’ stuff, carrying on.
I gotta tell you, your life is a mess right now, but look…YOU’VE GOT A HOUSE!!!
When my wife and I get a little down, we start listing our “blessings”…Kinda fun, and it helps.
My life about parallels yours, sounds like.
I have a pacemaker. The first one got infected immediately and quite nearly killed me. They took it out and gave me a new one on the other side…now I have two big scars in my formerly beautiful chest. The first one destroyed muscle tissue, so it’s kind of a hole.
I’m on dialysis three days a wk for three hrs each visit. Kind of destroys my days…I read, sleep, watch the History channel…time passes. Due to the treatment, I find myself slipping into dementia, forgetting things like my kids, etc.
I have crippling arthritis…the Dr. wants to give me a new hip and knee, I’m putting it off as long as possible. My back has three collapsed disks and the vertebrae are trying to fuse, sending out spurs. Don’t ride motorcycles, no matter HOW much fun they are. The crash was not my fault, I won the case, and spent FOURTEEN MONTHS in traction, never getting out of bed for any reason. I was released in a body cast but my wife had left me and put the kids (4) in foster homes. There’s more, but I won’t impose it on you. I got my kids back three years later.
My circulation is bad in my legs and I get tired very easily, due to heart damage from the meds they give me. I have had atrial fibrillation and atrial flutter for fifteen years. Just had an ablation to stop the fibrillation, feel a little better.
I’m on dialysis because the dr used an iodine dye in my blood to look at my leg circulation. The dye fried my kidneys, so I’m on the transplant list, but I really want stem cell therapy so I won’t have to be on immunosuppressants the rest of my life. Of course I have hypertension.
I’m a Computer Science major and get straight “A”s when I can finish a class. I know five computer languages but can’t do anything with it. I keep dropping classes because I can’t concentrate most of the week. I don’t have enough “good days” to be a student, but I sign up every semester anyway, maybe I’ll get lucky and finish another class. Anyway, the College is very understanding, and the counselor can cut through all manner of red tape.
I take a swimming class that lets me just swim for exercise, and a yoga class that really helps flexibility and strength. This semester I didn’t finish the yoga class because they move faster than I can. I do my yoga at home, too, so I guess that’s what I’ll do from now on. I liked the class because it’s motivating. Oh, Well! Gotta adapt and survive.
I’m not telling you all this as a pissing contest: “My Life’s More Screwed Up Than Yours”, but really to let you know that We Are Everywhere and the ones who don’t suffer are the weaker for it. Survivors are Dangerous People.
You and I have seen more of the world and it’s harsh realities than most, and it gives us a perspective unique in our soft and protected culture. Wisdom, in a word, and we can use our wisdom to let go of our expectations. I don’t mean to let go of your dreams, but just to accept what is as the new playing field, level or not, and move forward.
One of the other posters said something good that reminded me of an old saying: “You’re not judged by the number of times you get knocked down, but by the number of times you get up.” All problems a surmountable but the last one, and we all fall to that.
And by the way, my nutso neighbor just graded the dirt road I live on…(very steep)…when it was bone dry. Now it’s all dust and marbles and I can’t get to my house without taking a longer road that’s in serious four-wheel drive condition with huge rocks and deep washouts. About three miles of punishment for my car, maybe only for a week or so, but I silently curse my neighbor (and laugh at him) all the way up the mountain.
Feel better…enjoy yourself when you can…try to make it all a meditation that will only strengthen you, not tear you down.
It helps me to think of life as a school I signed up for.
Om Shalom